Friday, November 12, 2010
First of all, I’d like to introduce myself to you all. My second life name is Pleasure Ansome.
First and foremost, I am slave to my Master in both second life and first life. W/we met in second life around a year ago and have managed a successful transition into real life. Originally from Australia, I moved to the US (redneck country) to live with Master in a 24/7 M/s relationship.
This being said, I’ve been attending a lot of the SL classes advertised in the ACES group lately that have been based on real life topics and have found a surprising reaction from people about the ability to live 24/7 in a pure M/s dynamic. So in my first blog as an ACES Journalist, I want to touch on MY thoughts on how I see a 24/7 D/s relationship can work and ask the question... is it possible to “live it” 24 hours, 7 days a week?
I would like to make a note here, that I’m not one for labels, and to be perfectly honest, don’t understand all of the “theory” of the lifestyle. This is why I continually attend the classes in second life, continually share with others and ask lots of questions... we never stop learning and I am by no stretch of the imagination an expert.
So this point of view is purely my own... based on what I’ve learned, heard, read about and experienced firsthand. You may or may not agree with all or anything I say, but my opinion is that it doesn’t really matter whether I get the labels right or theories or if you agree with me. I’m just hoping to put another point of view across to think about. And at the end of the day, the lifestyle is about what works for you. Not me, not everyone else.
Ok, so the debate seems to be that 24/7 D/s isn’t real.
It can’t possibly be because ‘life’ gets in the way. We work, we get sick, we have kids, we have commitments and all kinds of obligations in the “real world”. How can you possibly be living in your roles as Dom/me and sub when you are making these decisions or dealing with these kinds of ‘distractions’ or just chilling out eating chocolate & ice-cream on the couch?
I can see how on the surface this seems to be the case. But from my experience... being a submissive isn’t what i DO, it’s WHO I AM. And it’s the same for Master.
I don’t put on my collar and “play” submissive until something else takes my attention. As a lifestyle submissive, Master is ALWAYS my priority. He is always Master and I am always slave. Period.
Ok... i can see you have a million questions or retorts to that (and none of them wrong, remember it’s YOUR views that are important to you)... But can I put this to you?
In a business environment, there is a Manager and a team of people. The Manager makes all the ultimate decisions on how the department is run. He/She plans the budget... they analyse productivity schedules... they are ultimately responsible for the smooth running of the department.
The team are given different areas of responsibilities to handle, given direction, a set of rules and guidelines to follow... but they always are working towards the goals set forward by the Manager.
If I call my mum while I’m at work... it would be the right thing to do to ask for permission from the Manager. He may have even given me a blanket decision that so long as I am getting things done that I need to, meeting deadlines and always available if he requires my attention, then it’s fine to call her.
Does this mean I’m stepping out of my role as part of the team? He has allowed me to do that. I have asked for permission and he has granted it. It doesn’t change our dynamic or what I need to achieve or the “pay” I receive.
It may even increase my job satisfaction and loyalty to the Department, since I have such a great boss that lets me do this type of thing. He/she may put on a bbq or a Christmas Party... perhaps even a “bonus” to build up moral. I’d definitely stay in a job like that where I feel appreciated for what I do and allowed these “little blessings”.
So in a 24/7 D/s relationship.... living it every waking (and sleeping) minute of every day, the important thing to remember is that anything you do is because it is required as part of your role as slave or your Dominant has given permission for.
For me...I may go to work in a high profile and demanding career, but it’s only because Master allows me to. If I get a night off from cooking and we have take out in front of the tv in my pjs... it’s because Master has given me permission to do this. I don’t step out of my role to do it... I am allowed... given permission. By Him allowing me these things, it keeps my brain active or my moral up. Just like the Manager did that I spoke about.
I mentioned earlier... the lifestyle is about what it is to you. No one else. There is no right or wrong way to live it.... From 24/7 to sceneing and everywhere in between. I just wanted to give you something to think about.
Until next post... I’ll leave you with this quote.........
“A mind once stretched by a new idea never regains its original dimension.” ~ Oliver Wendell
Happy learning everyone!
Posted by Pleasure Ansome at 12:15 PM